YES WE DID!

The pain that comes with getting back on the horse

So for the first time all week I have been able to walk without crippling pain. Sad right....I had the trainer from HELL on Sunday. I've never had to use my hands to move my legs in my life. I couldn't even get in and out of the car without using instruments, and then using my hands to lift my legs out of the car...smh...very painful, but good pain. So now that I can walk again with pain I can manage, I'm back in the gym today! =) I figure now all I have to do is remind myself of the pain I felt this week, and I'll never take a month off from the gym again!

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Get my butt into gear!

Soooo, after seeing the 'Yonce's new video, and thinking about the time in the sun/beach I'll have this winter, I decided it's time for me to become a gym rat again.

So I woke up early this morning did my 2.3 miles, tomorrow, 2.3 miles plus weight training at the gym! It is not a game....please feel free to leave little notes to keep me motivated!!! =)

In other news... DON'T FORGET TO VOTE FOR OBAMA!!!! Yea I'm biased, and not giving choices....Barack is the only option ;-) Let's make it happen!!

When does it stop?

At what age is it possible to stop having to play certain "games" while dating someone? How come people can't just say I like you, you like me, and just move on from there? Why is it that everyone is sooo afraid of looking thirsty? If you really like someone show it! Why is there this rule that folks never really grow out of that says you have to wait to show how you really feel about a person?

Lions & tigers & bears

Jazmine Sullivan's "Lions & Tigers & Bears"

Sorry if I sound so filled with gloom You say you care and I know you do But this is from my experience And my conclusion only makes sense Just cause I love u and u love me, It doesn't mean that that we're meant to be, I can climb mountains, swim cross the seas, But the most frightening thing is you & me!

[Chorus] I'm not scared of lions and tigers and bears [oh my] But I'm scared of [loving you] I'm not scared to perform at a sold out affair [that's right] But I'm scared of [loving you] Am I the only one who thinks an impossible task? Why it don't last? Is that too much to ask? Why do we love Love, when Love seems to hate us?

I've been listening to this song a lot lately, and the portion I bolded really got me thinking. Are there people you love that you should never try to be in a relationship with?

I know there are people that you love that you have no business marrying, but what about dating, etc.? I'm sure we've all had a person in our lives that we love, and are drawn to, but for one reason or another it just never seems to work out that you all are "together" no matter how much you love/like each other. Could this be God's way of saying STOP do not pass go?

Athlete v. Non Athlete

Why in the world do most successful young black men, have such a problem with a woman who has dated a professional athlete? It makes no sense to me. Women don't get mad when a guy dates different types of women, so why the reverse hate? I've even heard a guy go so far as to say, "if a chick can like/date an athlete, she can't like/date me". Does this make any sense? Don't the majority of people date someone based on their personality? Does an occupation make the person? No. I'm starting to think a lot of it boils down to high school. A lot of these successful black men were not the BMC in high school and/or undergrad, so they still hold this internal hatred towards the popular jocks. Yea, that's all I've got, because I clearly don't understand.

=)

Hung out with HTO this past weekend...good feelings!! =) The more I'm around him or I hang out with him, the more soldified my "like" is for him. That's def a good sign!!! =) Plus, I no longer have to go through my seesaw of emotions about is he or is he not interested, I def know he's digging me ;-) So I'll probably talk about him less, because I don't want to jinx it. But of course major developments I will share!

Hmmmmm

Is there something in America's water? People are losing their minds! I have been witnessing so many people who need to act right, people acting brand new, people being extra shady, and they're not just in Chicago! I've been witnessing this happen to people all over the US! What in the world is going on....smh.... Sometimes I wonder if people think others can read minds. It's better to have a discussion and communicate with the other person than to take the immature route and act brand new. Something to think about.....

Our Kids

I wrote this blog in June of 2006, but it was on my mind the past 4 days so I figured I'd post it here and get you all's thoughts...

"Today I was having a conversation with a co worker about how our kids will grow up, and the black community. It prompted me to make this post.
The convo went like this,

My kids will grow up going to wonderful schools, and they will be exposed to everything though because I don't want any scary kids. I want well rounded kids who are still in touch with all different kinds of black people. My kids will not be afraid of the hood, but they won't grow up there. They will travel all over but they will be American. I'm going to do what my mom did. She made sure we spent plenty of time at my grandmother's growing up. My grandma owns a building on the west side. So, I have no fear of the Westside or of anything happening to me there due to that. Plus, she made sure I went to an economically diverse high school that was still good academically. I went to classes with people whose parent's receivde welfare checks and those whose parents had trust funds set up for them. All of that gave me the ability to code switch. Cause if there's one thing I can't stand it's black people who were so sheltered they cant relate to all kinds of black people.

One of the reasons I will only send my kid to boarding school if I'm positive they are already well rounded and exposed. If not they will be going to the Latin School of Chicago lol I think part of what helps too is that my mom's side of the family is very diverse economically, so if you're at family reunions or visiting someone you will come in contact with all kinds of people. now my dad's side is rather different no diversity on that side. And my kids will def have access to both sides....Like I could date a snob and we could spend his money but it'd be hard for me to marry one because I don't want my kids to grow up with a snob for a daddy. The mate we pick will make or break our kids.

I can def only think of one friend I have that feels the same way and has voiced it. I think that many people get so caught up doing better than the previous generation that they forget some of the good positive things, and they don't impart those things to their children. They're so concerned with keeping up with the Jones' that they don't think about the lack of diversity. I have a few friends that grew up like that and when they come visit me and we go to the hood, they're literally scared. It almost turns my stomach until I remember they don't know any better. There's this book called Code of the Streets. it talks about the ability to code switch and how important it is to survival for black youth nowadays. My kids will be pros at it. They will be comfortable having dinner with an ambassador but they will also be comfortable playing 4 square in the middle of the Westside with the other kids. Nothing is worse than a scary kid. That’s the reason African Americans stay down as a group. People are so busy thinking about themselves and achieving more equity, that they don't help there fellow man who they were like maybe not this generation but somewhere back there they were.... we all started out as slaves with nothing...until people realize we're all one in the same and everyone has something they can bring to the table it might not be money but they have intelligence and are more than the annual family trip to dish out food to the poor black people at the soup kitchen. People always say the problem with blacks in this country is the lack of black leadership, its not that. The problem is the lack of a true sense of community amongst blacks. Until people realize their communities are made up of more than people with the same socioeconomic background we will continue to not elevate as a people. People need to realize no one is beneath them"

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Sooooooo guess who I hung out with this weekend? HTO!!!! ;-) Had a great time, experienced a TOTALLY new experience lol (yea sis I was hilarious to watch lololol), and talked with him for about 2 hours with not one single lull in the convo. I'm a talker but that was a new one even for me! I can't even talk to my BFF for an hour with no lulls or pauses. But, yea he's still as awesome as he was before. So we shall see where this goes....

Single by choice!

I just want to preface it all with saying I personally believe you're single until you're married.....

So, I had a guy tell me today that a female is never single by choice, and that I was single because I was "too smart". This was his response to me saying I was single by choice.

Do guys really think this way?

I was in back to back LTRs. One was 4 yrs, the other a yr. I wanted to enjoy my mid 20s for a bit without being in a monogamous relationship. I was sick of not being able to date people or take numbers of people I found attractive on multiple levels because I was with someone. So, I took a formal year off of relationships, that was my new years resolution and I stuck with it all of 2007. I really loved it, and extended it lol But, I haven't put date parameters on it this time. Now I'm in more of a if I meet a guy who is sooo wonderful, I find myself not wanting to see/date the other guys I like/see, then I know it's time to be in a relationship, but until I have that feeling, what's the point?

Ahhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!

OMGosh, someone TOTALLY transferred their energy to me, and I think I'm going to explode soon!!!! It's time for me to skip town w/in the next 2 weeks, for real......

Freedom!!!

Yay!!!! I am free!!!! Time to enjoy summer!

It's funny because summer always makes me feel a certain type of way (yea Sis THAT kind of way). I may have to look into that, during my time of freedom. Just have to sort out the details.

Well trip decision was made to go to Cabo, bad news, the resorts we wanted (5 diamond) were all booked up for their 2 bedroom suites. Nuevo Vallarta same thing, so we're just going to go to Playa del Carmen, and try to do Cabo again in 2009 when we all have time off from school at the same time.

So Operation HTO actually started moving a little bit. My plan partner dropped a teaser ;-)

Well that's all for now, I'm sure after the weekend I'll have a lot more to say!

Weekend Me....

Isn't it just great seeing folks you haven't seen in yrs, and being on top of your game when you do? That was my crew this weekend running into some fellow alums. What did they think in 4 yrs we'd all be obese and bald headed??? lolol

How about I almost ran into crazy loco ex this weekend? Whew! Glad I dodged that bullet unknowingly... he was a no show to an event I attended. Good thing is I know his people ran back and reported hahahaha I couldn't have planned it better if I'd tried!

Please people if you're going to marry someone, please love them....smh... I experienced FOOLISHNESS wedding style Saturday. If you have to be high to walk down the aisle, chances are something aint right ;-)

Yea I know it's short, but I have a final Thursday and tons of work to do before then! lol I'll try to blog more later....

Grrrrrrrrr!!!!

So, one thing I don't like....people who act like they can do something for you and they don't come through. Just say from the beginning, I'm not capable of doing X,Y,Z.

So lately I've been experiencing this with promoters. Dude, don't say you have us, then try to play us when we get there? I've been noticing that people will say they can do something they don't have the power to do, or people who do have the power will try to get brand new when it's time to come through. I'm soooo not a fan. If you're someone that I would go out of my way for, I expect you to do a small thing for me. I know it can happen, because others do it with no problems. This especially gets on my nerves when a favor is not asked for, but it is offered. I stopped asking folks a looooonnnnggggg time ago to do certain things for me, because I know if they don't come through I'll be pissed, so I let people volunteer. There are a couple folks that never cease to come through and my friends and I appreciate it, and will bend over backwards to support them in anyway. These other folks? humph! It'll be a minute before I frequent anything else they're doing again.....can you tell a promoter I've known for yrs (before he started promoting, shoot before he started driving) got brand new last night? Guess it's time for a 2 month hiatus from his stuff too...

It's been a minute...

So let's see what has happened since my last "my life" update.

Very recently for the first time in over a year, I am in a "I want to be in a relationship" mood. I haven't felt like this since 2006, and I was in one then lol It's weird, the more I think of how much I'm going to have slow down my social life when grad school starts in a month, and I really just want to spend the little free time I will have, with someone I romantically love. Weird isn't it, that last sentence coming out of my mouth (fingers) lol Don't worry I'm still a believer in you're single until you're married, but I do want a special someone, and not the "pretty nice" men I've been spending time with, although I'm not exactly ready to let that all go either lolololol Now for HTO of course, anyone else... ummm yea I haven't met them yet! lol

Speaking of guys so tell me why one of the more "seasoned" guys I date bought a boat. But being who he is, he didn't just buy any old boat he bought a 6 person can sleep below, 15 people on deck at a time boat. I'm like dude why not just get a yacht? lol Clearly you're trying to ball....I really don't get the whole boat thing. If I have enough money to spend on a boat like that, why not just join net jets? Then you can experience the water in other countries. Why don't people think of that???

So my ex...smh.....well not the crazy always on his period one, but the athlete one....things had been going so well for him. He was getting back in his Word, leading a healthy lifestyle, had a new team that I'd LOVE to visit their team city VERY interested in him, and then what happens he tears his quad...smh. I felt so bad for him, but yet I still hoped he'd take it as an opportunity to grow spiritually. I talked to him a week later, and he'd turned to alcohol. Broke my heart, and pissed me off at the same time. After a VERY stern talking to by me he got his act together. It's good sometimes to know a person almost inside and out, so that when it's time to get real with them, you know exactly what to say and what buttons to push to get the point thoroughly across.

I got to see the majority of my closest ladies in June. I went out to NYC for our boy's surprise birthday party, and we got to live it up! We partied, shopped, and slept! lol Good times! :-)
I also got to hang with the BFF when she came to town for the 4th of July, we ate, partied, and shopped... hmmm, seems to be a theme for us lol

My summer class will be over at the end of July, so August will be my last time having fun non stop until break in November, a trip here I come! So what do you all think, Cabo/Nuevo Vallarta/Belize for the November/December getaway? Pick one! :-)

'Til next, Love Ya!

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Would you ever be the other woman????

What would the circumstances have to be for you to see yourself being one?

Hiatus from plan....

Pause has been pressed on my end for the "master plan". I have to wait until the other end of the plans works before my part comes into play ;-) So until then, I won't have any new developments.

This Memorial Day I travelled to the tri-state area, namely Jersey and NYC. My BFF lives in Jersey (for the next month) and of course we had to go party in NYC ;-) I had an awesome time. We went out every night, and on Sunday we hooked up with one of our really close friends from undergrad, and we shopped and ate. Such a great time!! I also fell in love with a new Gucci leather bag. I won't be posting a picture until after I purchase it ;-) I have to be the first with it! You know how I do lol

Last night I went to go see "The Ballad of Emmett Till" at the Goodman Theatre. It was really moving. I want to take my mom to go see it when she's back stateside.

Today at 5:30am I started 2 a days. I was so alert this morning at work after completing my cardio workout! Another friend just told me about this thing called Lipo6, that will enhance and speed up the weight loss process so now that I've read up on it, I will be purchasing that on my lunch break! ;-) So hopefully I'll be writing about losing 10 lbs quickly soon....

Yessir, we've got a plan!!!

So operation "he's the one" - HTO, is in full effect! I had a convo with a close friend of mine who is also a close friend of his, and we came up with a pretty good plan. Now let's all just hope it works out ;-) And also that he likes me too, lol that's pretty major.

I'm trying to decide how close I'm going to be with an ex of mine. We're really good friends, and from time to time when we see each other we "Act like a couple" if you know what I mean. But, does being close to him jeopardize me for a new relationship with someone else?

Has anyone had a chance to check out Diane VF's summer dresses? They are so fiercely feminine! I love them!
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Hmmmmm, could he be the One?

So every time I meet a guy who's great on paper, I never let myself get too caught up in thinking he's going to be my man, etc. Because too often nowadays folks lie, or they're just not the great even mediocre in real life, and should've just stuck to the myth I'd created of them based on what they were on paper.

So there's this guy...of course we all knew this was coming...he's absolutely positively FABULOUS on paper, but get this brace yourselves.... he's absolutely charming, and very attractive in real life. Too good to be true right? Well, I sure hope not. Yea I said hope, because right now the him in my head, yes the pedestal I have him on, is just that in my head. I know he's a great guy as we have interacted numerous times in "real" life. But, seeing as how he has no clue, well I think no clue, that I even like him let alone think he could be my perfect soul mate, I have no idea how he'd be in a romantic setting. All I know is he has every quality I want in my mate...

Christian who is spiritual and knows his Bible

A cool cute charismatic nerd

Highly intelligent (I will not have dumb kids, and my wonderful chromosones just account for 50% of what they get)

Someone that can hang with the bourgies, but can also hang in the hood, and fit well in both settings...

So because he's so awesome I'm trying to play everything by the book! I need him to approach me first...I need a man who can lead! I can be a bit much so I need to know he's a take charge sort of guy. I just really think he's perfect for me........Now to only have him see I'm perfect for him.......... yea.......that part is pretty major.....

We all just want a "Last First Kiss" by Tamia, right?