it was beyond the strong sexual attraction, beyond the feeling of total security I had whenever i was round him. I felt i could be me in every way, and be celebrated for it flaws and all in a way I've never felt with any other guy, and THAT was powerful.....
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Friday, April 16, 2010
My quote for this week of my life
"...all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose."
Romans 8:28 KJV
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Peace & Calmness
I'm in love with how calm and peaceful I've been feeling these past couple weeks!
I was REALLY stressed out during Finals, not getting enough sleep etc. Then I went on vacation to the D.R. and found bliss! I never knew it'd last this long. I LOVE it! My WONDERFUL April trip was canceled due to a last minute scheduling conflict so I'm hoping this bliss can last until my May trips. Vacations are TRULY a life savior. They help me get back to the basics and concentrate on the things that are important to me.
Calm vacations are my yoga, and I need one once a month. Yes, I said need. I went two months (Jan & Feb) for the first time in like 4 yrs without even a mini vacay a month and boy was I wound up! My schedule is pretty hectic, so leaving Chicago is the only time I get to not have a million things on my plate to do. I need time where I don't have to worry about the next meeting/appointment/committment. I think we all do. Sometimes we give so much of ourselves to causes, jobs, school, and other commitments, that there isn't much left for us.
If you're not taking me time, whether it's a vacation, hour alone meditating/praying, in town getaway, etc. think about it, imagine what your life and disposition could be like with it...
I was REALLY stressed out during Finals, not getting enough sleep etc. Then I went on vacation to the D.R. and found bliss! I never knew it'd last this long. I LOVE it! My WONDERFUL April trip was canceled due to a last minute scheduling conflict so I'm hoping this bliss can last until my May trips. Vacations are TRULY a life savior. They help me get back to the basics and concentrate on the things that are important to me.
Calm vacations are my yoga, and I need one once a month. Yes, I said need. I went two months (Jan & Feb) for the first time in like 4 yrs without even a mini vacay a month and boy was I wound up! My schedule is pretty hectic, so leaving Chicago is the only time I get to not have a million things on my plate to do. I need time where I don't have to worry about the next meeting/appointment/committment. I think we all do. Sometimes we give so much of ourselves to causes, jobs, school, and other commitments, that there isn't much left for us.
If you're not taking me time, whether it's a vacation, hour alone meditating/praying, in town getaway, etc. think about it, imagine what your life and disposition could be like with it...
Thursday, April 8, 2010
Getting My Warm Weather Groove Back
I'm finally coming out of hibernation! =) As we know its cold where I live 60% or more of the year. I like to be warm, hot even is preferable. So, when it gets cold out I stay in the house unless it's someone's birthday or other special occasion. But it's finally warming up! And after 2 trips to warm locations in the past 2 weeks, I'm ready to be out and about!!
Now with this I've been slowly but surely getting out more and more. Well I think I took things a little too far, because I injured/aggravated my back, and I already had a controlled back issue. Yea, it's not so controlled now thanks to me =/ So I had to stop my training sessions at my gym, so I can take weeks of physical therapy in order to prevent back surgery. My surgeon was basically like either you do well in PT or I'll be performing surgery on you this late Spring. Needless to say I told my Physical Therapist to go hard, because I DO NOT want to have any type of surgery on my spine...smh...nosir!
So while that should've slowed me down immensely I've just decided to continue to pop my prescribed meds every morning, carry Ibuprofen, and do everything my therapist tells me to. After all it is warming up, I just have to make sure I'm not out in stilettos all the time and I should be good ;-)
Now with this I've been slowly but surely getting out more and more. Well I think I took things a little too far, because I injured/aggravated my back, and I already had a controlled back issue. Yea, it's not so controlled now thanks to me =/ So I had to stop my training sessions at my gym, so I can take weeks of physical therapy in order to prevent back surgery. My surgeon was basically like either you do well in PT or I'll be performing surgery on you this late Spring. Needless to say I told my Physical Therapist to go hard, because I DO NOT want to have any type of surgery on my spine...smh...nosir!
So while that should've slowed me down immensely I've just decided to continue to pop my prescribed meds every morning, carry Ibuprofen, and do everything my therapist tells me to. After all it is warming up, I just have to make sure I'm not out in stilettos all the time and I should be good ;-)
Monday, March 15, 2010
Sweating the Small Stuff...
I just had a moment of clarity.
A lot of people that know me extremely well, especially my inner female circle, know that I tend to be rather cool, calm and collected when it comes to guys. It takes a lot to phase me, and I don't let a guy into my heart for a very long time. Part of that is I don't want to be hurt, and part of it is it's just not in my personality to be the gyrl all hyped up about a guy.
I don't like PDAs. I'm not an I need to see this dude every day and be on the phone all night type of gyrl. In relationships, I'm often the one saying as long as we have a communication everyday (goodnight text/email will suffice), we only need to have a thorough conversation or visit once a week, unless the need arises to do more. I'm pretty low maintenance in terms of what I need emotionally from a guy I'm involved with, once I feel secure of my position in his life. I'm not the jealous type, I have healthy male friendships and I have no problem with him having healthy female friendships.
All of that means I'm typically in relationships/situations where there's very little drama, stress, and arguments. Typically if I'm upset at my mate something MAJOR has occured, &/or I feel I'm being disrespected.
On the flip side, this also means I don't sweat the small stuff. Now the problem with that is I either end up internally rationalizing whatever small thing occured, or I try to just forget it happened. While some may say it's slightly passive agressive of me to behave like this, I just don't have the energy to argue/discuss something small enough for it to not affect my behavior or feelings towards my mate.
Well one of the guy's I've been seeing for a few months that's pretty much my favorite non platonic guy to spend time with has been PERFECT in all the major areas people tend to care about. He treats me WELL whenever we're together. He's vocal about his feelings, there's no guessing game. We have AMAZING all-around chemistry. We also have the same values. BUT, there's been something small that he's not been so perfect in/about.
Everytime the small thing happens, I pull a typical me and I don't say anything and just know I'll be over it in the morning. Well the small thing has occured in different forms a few times lately. And needless to say I've been doing a lot of internalizing, and of course with that comes me rationalizing his behavior. I was on the phone with one of my best friends telling her for the first time about the situation, and him (I actually like this guy, which is another rarity for me, and I tend to keep those situations to myself until I can tell if it'll end well), and I found myself getting mad. I realized this was no longer a small issue with me. This issue had ballooned from "I don't sweat the small stuff" to this is making me wonder if I should still see him.
I finally built up the courage to call him (yes courage, because I hadn't decided if I was ready & willing to let him go if the conversation didn't go as well as I wanted it to go), and found that he was EXTREMELY apologetic, and said he'd do better. I'd gone through this long period of simmering about his behavior, and semi stressing about it, when all it took was for me to STOP internalizing it and just say something, for it to be fixed.
So I'm not saying I will stop not sweating the small stuff, but I am saying I will do a better job of realizing when something is no longer "small" and has become an issue I need to discuss. I shouldn't let something eat me up inside in a friendship. It's not fair to that person, and it's not fair to me.
A lot of people that know me extremely well, especially my inner female circle, know that I tend to be rather cool, calm and collected when it comes to guys. It takes a lot to phase me, and I don't let a guy into my heart for a very long time. Part of that is I don't want to be hurt, and part of it is it's just not in my personality to be the gyrl all hyped up about a guy.
I don't like PDAs. I'm not an I need to see this dude every day and be on the phone all night type of gyrl. In relationships, I'm often the one saying as long as we have a communication everyday (goodnight text/email will suffice), we only need to have a thorough conversation or visit once a week, unless the need arises to do more. I'm pretty low maintenance in terms of what I need emotionally from a guy I'm involved with, once I feel secure of my position in his life. I'm not the jealous type, I have healthy male friendships and I have no problem with him having healthy female friendships.
All of that means I'm typically in relationships/situations where there's very little drama, stress, and arguments. Typically if I'm upset at my mate something MAJOR has occured, &/or I feel I'm being disrespected.
On the flip side, this also means I don't sweat the small stuff. Now the problem with that is I either end up internally rationalizing whatever small thing occured, or I try to just forget it happened. While some may say it's slightly passive agressive of me to behave like this, I just don't have the energy to argue/discuss something small enough for it to not affect my behavior or feelings towards my mate.
Well one of the guy's I've been seeing for a few months that's pretty much my favorite non platonic guy to spend time with has been PERFECT in all the major areas people tend to care about. He treats me WELL whenever we're together. He's vocal about his feelings, there's no guessing game. We have AMAZING all-around chemistry. We also have the same values. BUT, there's been something small that he's not been so perfect in/about.
Everytime the small thing happens, I pull a typical me and I don't say anything and just know I'll be over it in the morning. Well the small thing has occured in different forms a few times lately. And needless to say I've been doing a lot of internalizing, and of course with that comes me rationalizing his behavior. I was on the phone with one of my best friends telling her for the first time about the situation, and him (I actually like this guy, which is another rarity for me, and I tend to keep those situations to myself until I can tell if it'll end well), and I found myself getting mad. I realized this was no longer a small issue with me. This issue had ballooned from "I don't sweat the small stuff" to this is making me wonder if I should still see him.
I finally built up the courage to call him (yes courage, because I hadn't decided if I was ready & willing to let him go if the conversation didn't go as well as I wanted it to go), and found that he was EXTREMELY apologetic, and said he'd do better. I'd gone through this long period of simmering about his behavior, and semi stressing about it, when all it took was for me to STOP internalizing it and just say something, for it to be fixed.
So I'm not saying I will stop not sweating the small stuff, but I am saying I will do a better job of realizing when something is no longer "small" and has become an issue I need to discuss. I shouldn't let something eat me up inside in a friendship. It's not fair to that person, and it's not fair to me.
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