Sometimes all it takes is an apology.

I have friend that said one of the most hurtful phrases a friend has ever said to me.  I cried, and took a break from the friendship for 2 yrs (minus serious life events taking place in which I reached out).  For the first time my mother even told me to walk away from a friendship.  My mother has never done this before with any of my close friendships.  She calls it "kiddy stuff" to get involved in my friendships.

That phrase was the straw that broke the camels back and anything that happened afterwards was just icing on the cake.  We'd tried to just move past it 9 months later when she told me she missed my friendship, but that only lasted 8 months before something else "bogus" took place.  I took a 10 month break (I thought it was going to be permanent).  We finally had a conversation after she had to undergo major surgery.  The whole time she was in surgery i just kept thinking to myself Lord please don't her die or not be okay and our friendship is the way it is.  Once she was able to talk and sit up again we talked.

The apologies I received and the explanations were things I didn't even realize how much I needed, immediately I felt at peace again.  The reason we were able to move on 10 months before was that deep down inside I needed that apology.  I tend to be very forgiving, and will try to just brush certain things away or decide to move on from whatever took place without even having to discuss it.  But with this being such a close friend and what she said having cut so deeply I need more.

I am thankful that we were able to say the things we needed to say and move on and back to each other.  I am sad it took a terrible event for us to get there, but happy nonetheless.

Destination Wedding

I reallllllyyyyy want to do a destination wedding. It is less stressful for the bride and planner, and we can do a lot more with our $ to create a fantabulous wedding weekend for our guests. My mom is deadset against us doing this. She wants us to have a wedding here in the Chicagoland area so all of her family and friends can be invited. I would be fine with 30-50 people at our destination. She has communicated she'd be VERY disappointed if we did a destination wedding. I don't know what to do =(